There’s something I find myself learning over and over again. Or maybe it’s more accurate – and more kind - to say that I’m continually deepening my understanding of it. It crops up repeatedly, especially when I feel I’m falling behind in whatever priorities I’ve set for myself.
To put it bluntly, it crops up when I find myself procrastinating.
The “it” I’m talking about is a tidbit of insight that has comforted me and enriched the quality of my life time and time again.
Here it is:
There is nothing wrong with procrastination.
Read more: Embracing Your Inner Procrastinator
The following is excerpted from Solid Ground's upcoming online course, Love Yourself to Success & Fulfillment: An Advanced Course in Creating a Joy-Filled Life. The course will be available in September!
Think about the life you really want to live, and all of the wonderful experiences you’ll have. Imagine how it will feel to be happily involved in the relationships and projects that really matter to you, to be vibrantly healthy, at peace and trusting in the goodness of life. Really let yourself feel what that kind of life would feel like. Relish the feeling. Yes!
Now, notice how utterly impossible it would be to create a life like that in the presence of self-doubt, self-criticism or self-judgment. It cannot be done. They are completely different states of being. Doubt and criticism arise from a fundamental feeling of lack, or “not enough-ness” of some kind—which is the opposite of feeling whole, at peace, and fulfilled.
Many of us, however, have been conditioned to believe that in order to really succeed in life, we have to work on ourselves. We have to buckle down, get serious and apply strong doses of willpower to overcome our many flaws. We have to be on constant watch, lest our laziness, bad attitude, or poor judgment rear its ugly head and ruins everything.
Read more: Decide to Love Yourself to Success
There is a concept that many of us on a spiritual path have been introduced to - the idea and understanding that "everything is perfect" - which I've noticed can generate more than a little confusion...and frustration. Sure, it's easy to feel that everything is perfect when you're on a roll and wonderful things keep showing up in your experience. It's not so easy to acknowledge that everything is perfect when things aren't going your way.
I've come to understand that "everything is perfect" has multiple layers of meaning, but the one I want to focus on here is this: everything we experience is a perfect reflection of our vibration - our intentions, beliefs, thoughts, language and action. If we believe that life is a struggle, that's what we'll experience. If we believe we are somehow "not enough," we'll keep finding ourselves in circumstances where that appears to be true. If we believe men are jerks, we'll keep bumping into men who are...jerky.
And if we believe we are whole and worthy and talented and valuable, those beliefs will be reflected back to us in myriad ways - through work we love, vibrant health, satisfying relationships and fulfilling, creative self-expression. We'll be successful in ways that are meaningful to us.
Read more: If Everything is Perfect, Why Am I Not Living a Life I Love?
On my journey of creating a deeply fulfilled, spiritually grounded and just plain happy life - and helping others do the same – I’ve noticed a fair amount of confusion about what it means to “let go.” Too often the idea and practice of “letting go” translates into people being passive observers of their lives rather than active creators in the flow of life. They become frustrated because they’re not experiencing the levels of fulfillment and creative self-expression they’re longing for.
And that’s because they’re letting go of their desires rather than letting go of the doubts and fears that inhibit them. They’re letting go of their focus and enthusiasm rather than letting go of their need to rigidly control every step and outcome. They’re letting go of action rather than letting go of tension.
Read more: How Do You "Let Go" and Still Manifest Your Desires?
In a recent conversation with a new acquaintance, she revealed to me that she didn't really think life is about manifesting what we desire. I don't recall her specific words, but what she said reminded me of a perspective I've encountered again and again as I do my work supporting people in...manifesting what they desire.
There are beliefs, entrenched in mass consciousness, that life is serious business. Manifesting desires is seen as downright selfish. Many people, depending on whether they consider themselves "realistic" or "spiritual," think that our purpose in life is to work hard or learn lessons.
I used to think that way...until I realized that in doing so, I was living a life of hard work and learning lessons.
Read more: So Is It Selfish to Want to Manifest Your Desires?
Let’s talk about power.
Not power over anything or anyone, but power to create a life you love.
How powerful do you feel? Do you believe you have the power to create what you deeply want to experience in life? Do you have the power to stay centered and calm and make necessary course corrections when things get a little wobbly?
Power is all about energy, because energy is the fundamental basis of reality as we experience it in this universe. And being powerful is not just about having “big” energy, but having coherent, aligned and focused energy.
Read more: Power Play
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