There is a concept that many of us on a spiritual path have been introduced to - the idea and understanding that "everything is perfect" - which I've noticed can generate more than a little confusion...and frustration. Sure, it's easy to feel that everything is perfect when you're on a roll and wonderful things keep showing up in your experience. It's not so easy to acknowledge that everything is perfect when things aren't going your way.
I've come to understand that "everything is perfect" has multiple layers of meaning, but the one I want to focus on here is this: everything we experience is a perfect reflection of our vibration - our intentions, beliefs, thoughts, language and action. If we believe that life is a struggle, that's what we'll experience. If we believe we are somehow "not enough," we'll keep finding ourselves in circumstances where that appears to be true. If we believe men are jerks, we'll keep bumping into men who are...jerky.
And if we believe we are whole and worthy and talented and valuable, those beliefs will be reflected back to us in myriad ways - through work we love, vibrant health, satisfying relationships and fulfilling, creative self-expression. We'll be successful in ways that are meaningful to us.
Read more: If Everything is Perfect, Why Am I Not Living a Life I Love?
On my journey of creating a deeply fulfilled, spiritually grounded and just plain happy life - and helping others do the same – I’ve noticed a fair amount of confusion about what it means to “let go.” Too often the idea and practice of “letting go” translates into people being passive observers of their lives rather than active creators in the flow of life. They become frustrated because they’re not experiencing the levels of fulfillment and creative self-expression they’re longing for.
And that’s because they’re letting go of their desires rather than letting go of the doubts and fears that inhibit them. They’re letting go of their focus and enthusiasm rather than letting go of their need to rigidly control every step and outcome. They’re letting go of action rather than letting go of tension.
Read more: How Do You "Let Go" and Still Manifest Your Desires?
In a recent conversation with a new acquaintance, she revealed to me that she didn't really think life is about manifesting what we desire. I don't recall her specific words, but what she said reminded me of a perspective I've encountered again and again as I do my work supporting people in...manifesting what they desire.
There are beliefs, entrenched in mass consciousness, that life is serious business. Manifesting desires is seen as downright selfish. Many people, depending on whether they consider themselves "realistic" or "spiritual," think that our purpose in life is to work hard or learn lessons.
I used to think that way...until I realized that in doing so, I was living a life of hard work and learning lessons.
Read more: So Is It Selfish to Want to Manifest Your Desires?
Let’s talk about power.
Not power over anything or anyone, but power to create a life you love.
How powerful do you feel? Do you believe you have the power to create what you deeply want to experience in life? Do you have the power to stay centered and calm and make necessary course corrections when things get a little wobbly?
Power is all about energy, because energy is the fundamental basis of reality as we experience it in this universe. And being powerful is not just about having “big” energy, but having coherent, aligned and focused energy.
Read more: Power Play
The following is excerpted from an online course I’m creating about the essentials of creating a life you truly love. This working title for this particular module is, “Try Supporting What You Want Rather Than Diminishing It.” How’s that for a radical idea? It follows a module about giving yourself permission to want what you really want for your life, which is a theme my readers will recognize as one I write about frequently. So assuming you’ve actually given yourself permission to want what you really want – and if you haven’t, now would be a good time! – read on…
Okay, you’ve given yourself permission to want what you really want, and to feel how you really want to feel. Congratulations! Take a moment, right now, to close your eyes and imagine you are already experiencing what you want to experience. Luxuriate in the feelings and images that are stimulated. Relax, breathe a little deeper, and relish these feelings for as long as you can.
Notice that you can actually feel the way you want to feel right now, even before “what” you want has materialized. This is key. I’m not the first person to make this next point, and I’m sure I won’t be the last, but even if you’ve heard it countless times, see if you can take it in at an even deeper level:
We want what we want because we think that, in having it or experiencing it, we will feel better. So feel better now. The capacity for those feelings is within you.
As you choose to generate and experience those good feelings more often, you become a magnet for ideas, people and opportunities that are on that same good-feeling wavelength. You move forward with more fluidity, creating what you want – because you can, and because the creative process is so enlivening – rather than working to “get” what you want.
Read more: Feeling Those Good Vibrations
No doubt you’ve heard it said, “Your beliefs create your reality.” If you’re like many people, you are intrigued by the idea and feel, intuitively, that it makes sense. You may already have explored shifting your beliefs in order to create a reality – a life – you love, yet can’t seem to get there from here. Either it isn’t obvious what you believe that runs counter to what you want, or what you believe just seems so absolutely true you don’t see any way of shifting it.
You are not alone. That’s why there are so many of us offering perspectives on what it really takes to change a belief. Or more to the point, that’s why I’m offering my perspective on what it really takes to change a belief! Because it is possible to shift your beliefs in order to create a more deeply fulfilling life – in fact, positive change can only happen when the underlying beliefs support it – and learning to do it intentionally will give you an amazing sense of empowerment to create a life you love.
So I’m going to give you my answer to “what it really takes to change a belief” right here, right now:
Read more: Believe It or Not
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